Services
I specialise in relationship counselling, grief therapy, and childhood trauma counselling.
Grief Therapy
Grief therapy, also known as bereavement counselling or grief counselling, is a form of psychotherapy designed to help individuals cope with and process the emotions and challenges associated with the loss of a loved one. Grief is a deeply personal and complex emotional response to loss, which can include not only the death of a person but also other significant losses such as the end of a relationship, a job, a pet, or a major life change.
The main goals of grief therapy are to provide support, help individuals understand and navigate their feelings, and assist them in finding healthy ways to adapt to their new reality.
Grief Through the window of Astro-Psychology
Grief is an inevitable part of the human experience, touching each of us at various junctures, often more than once. Certain individuals seem inherently equipped to confront grief and progress, while others grapple with its weight, struggling to find a path forward. The arrangement of celestial bodies can provide insights into an individual’s inherent capacity to navigate grief, thereby guiding the most effective approach for coping.
It’s essential to recognize that grief resists containment; it demands recognition, acceptance, and active engagement
It’s important to note that grief is a natural and individual process, and there is no “right” way to grieve. Should you or someone you’re acquainted with be grappling with grief, finding solace in the guidance of a skilled therapist or counsellor is a step in the right direction. Rest assured, you’ve arrived at the right place.
Childhood Trauma
The term “trauma,” derived from the Greek word for ‘wound,’ refers to emotional wounds inflicted by distressing experiences during childhood. Officially, Childhood Trauma is defined as the enduring emotional and physical impact resulting from a distressing event experienced during a person’s formative years.
Within the realm of psychology, an ongoing debate revolves around the relative significance of Nature versus Nurture. The Nature perspective emphasises inherent traits and characteristics a child is born with, while the Nurture standpoint underscores the influence of the child’s environment, surroundings, and family dynamics on their development.
Causes of Active Childhood Trauma:
- Neglect
- Abandonment
- Experience of sexual, emotional, and/or physical abuse
- Witnessing abuse involving a parent or sibling
- Presence of a mentally ill parent or a parent dealing with mental health issues
- Ignored childhood experiences
- Regimentation and excessive control
- Various other instances during a child’s upbringing
Passive Childhood Trauma: While there is substantial information available about Active Childhood Trauma, there exists an equally impactful yet less discussed phenomenon known as Passive Childhood Trauma. This form of trauma is found to be prevalent in a significantly higher number of cases compared to active trauma.Insimple terms, Passive Childhood Trauma refers to the suppression or blocking of emotions in a child, often without their awareness. The effects of passive childhood trauma become evident when affected individuals struggle to comprehend their emotional patterns and relationships with others.
Examples of Passive Childhood Trauma:
- Lack of attention from parents
- Excessive regimentation
- Extremely strict or disciplined upbringing
- Limited active communication between child and parents
- Continuous criticism from parents, siblings, or others regarding a child’s regular activities
Signs of Childhood Trauma:
- Intense and unpredictable reactions to specific people or situations
- Drastic shifts in emotions
- Attachment issues
- Anxiety
- Depression
- Intense anger and rage
- Underdeveloped coping mechanisms
- Strong desire to be in someone’s company
- Excessive need for attention
- Yearning for physical and emotional connection
- Trust issues
- Grief
- Overwhelming feelings of revenge, hostility, and excessive jealousy
Cognitive Effects of Childhood Trauma in Adulthood:
- Sleep disorders
- Relationship-related obsessive-compulsive tendencies
- Fear of abandonment
- Nightmares
- Constant fear of the trauma recurring
- Insecurity
- Excessive dependence on others
- Anxiety
- Depression
- Behavioural problems
- Substance abuse
A substantial number of individuals have encountered either active or passive childhood trauma, which, often unknown to us, profoundly shapes our belief systems, perspectives, and influences our responses to various situations.
Recognizing, acknowledging, and confronting these past traumas becomes paramount in effectively managing their impact.
If you or someone within your circle has undergone childhood trauma and is struggling to cope, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me.
Relationship Counselling
Relationships can be understood as connections we either find relatable or to which we are inherently connected. While we have no choice in the relationships we are born into, the relationships we relate to are within our control. Let’s dive deeper into this concept.
Throughout life, we navigate various relationships, which can be broadly categorised into two main groups:
- Pre-Birth Relationships (By Birth): Certain relationships begin even before a child is born. These connections are beyond our control and are preordained. They include parents, grandparents, blood relatives, siblings, and extended family members. Regardless of our wishes, altering or undoing these relationships is not possible. They endure throughout our lifetime or the lifetimes of those involved.
- Post-Birth Relationships – Relationships We Relate To: Building relationships significantly shapes a child’s mental and physical development. Each relationship we establish leaves its mark on our thoughts and perspectives. Unlike pre-existing relationships, the post-birth relationships are choices we make as we embark on our life journey. Whether in our selection of friends or life partners, we seek relationships with which we can identify. This tendency might be attributed to what I term as ‘Constructive Interference of Thoughts.’ These are relationships that engage us emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and even physically.
Everything often appears ideal when we enter a new relationship, but what comes after that initial phase?
- Applying the principles of hedonism, our initial euphoria and excitement eventually revert to a baseline level over time. Once this transition occurs, the tendency to uncover imperfections takes hold. Rather than clear communication, we often anticipate that others should instinctively understand our expectations and heed them. However, this assumption overlooks the reality that not everyone possesses the ability to decipher our unspoken desires.
- The art of effective communication tends to waver. Regrettably, we tend to hold unrealistic expectations about mind-reading abilities.
- It’s common to be resistant to change, questioning why we should alter ourselves for the sake of another person. Yet, have we ever contemplated that the other person might harbour the same sentiment? A moment of reflection is in order.
While it’s natural to seek personal space, we seldom pause to consider the significance of affording the same to the other individual.
Often, we staunchly defend our standpoint, demanding adjustments solely from the other party. But is this stance justified?
The recurring “I am right, and they are wrong” narrative arises. Yet, who exactly is the judge in this scenario?
Numerous mental intricacies are at play…
These dynamics apply to various types of relationships – friendships, sibling connections, parent-child relationships, professional interactions, life partners, spouses, and more.
Considering relationships through the lens of Astro-Psychology: From the vantage point of Astro-Psychology, every relationship carries an inherent karmic aspect. Embracing this insight can render life less arduous than before. Astro-Psychology not only enhances our capacity to navigate troubled relationships but also provides transformative answers that can reshape our perception and comprehension.
Astro-Psychology, by shedding light on the karmic dimensions of relationships, facilitates a deeper understanding that paves the way for more fruitful interactions.
Issues may vary, but in a majority of cases, unmet expectations and the absence of clear communication about these expectations stand out as pivotal factors. While communication alone might not be a panacea for relationship issues, it holds the power to either initiate or conclude a relationship harmoniously, streamlining the process.
How My Process Works
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Begin the counselling process by completing a simple form, which is conveniently accessible on our website. You can also find it in an email after clicking the "reach me" or "schedule a meeting" button.
Book Your Counseling Session
After receiving your form, we will promptly contact you to discuss and schedule either a virtual or an in-person counselling session, depending on your preferences and needs.
Experience Your Growth
As you continue with the counseling sessions, you will find that you are able to overcome the difficult situation and also experience your growth. You will be able to lead a meaningful and happier life.
