Anamika’s Journey
Betrayal. Heartbreak. A marriage on the edge.
Anamika (name changed), a 36-year-old woman from NCR, approached me, carrying a storm within her. She had caught her husband, Mohit, exchanging intimate messages with a colleague. Her world shattered in an instant.
She was angry, devastated, and resentful—ready to walk away. But when I asked her, “What do you truly want?” her initial response—”I want him out of my life”—didn’t seem fully aligned with her emotions. By the third session, clarity emerged: She wanted to save her marriage. Not just for their 7-year-old son, but also for the love they once shared.
The Underlying Patterns
Through therapy, we unearthed deeper issues:
- Mohit’s childhood trauma—growing up in financial instability, losing his father with unpaid debts, and carrying the burden of responsibility.
- His attraction to power & security—the other woman was financially independent and assertive, traits he unconsciously wished to see in Anamika.
- His emotional withdrawal—working late, drinking more, and becoming distant in their marriage.
Meanwhile, Anamika had been a loved child, who had fought against societal odds to marry Mohit. Leaving wasn’t just about herself—it meant facing judgment, shame, and a sense of personal failure. She wasn’t ready to give up, but she also couldn’t stay the way she was.
✨ Astro-Psychological Analysis:
To gain a deeper insight into their emotional and behavioral patterns, we used an astro-psychological approach.
- Mohit’s planetary placements indicated deep-seated insecurity — signifying struggles with financial matters and father-related trauma.
- Anamika’s chart showed certain combinations, making her highly emotional, love-driven, and committed to relationships despite hardships.
- The planetary transits at the time of the crisis indicated a karmic test in their relationship—forcing both partners to feel emotionally overwhelmed.
Understanding these cosmic influences helped Anamika make peace with her emotions.
Therapy & Transformation The journey ahead was not about "winning him back" but about regaining her own strength.
Emotional Boundaries
No more people-pleasing. She stopped seeking validation from Mohit and started sleeping in a separate room with their son.
No Physical Intimacy
As difficult as it was, she withdrew from physical affection, ensuring Mohit felt the emotional distance.
Shifting Focus
Instead of obsessing over Mohit, she engaged deeply with her son, ensuring he absorbed minimal negativity. Playdates, weekend outings, and quality time became her priorities.
Over the months, these small but intentional shifts triggered a reflection within Mohit—an insecurity, a realization of what he was about to lose. By month seven, he came forward, apologizing and pledging to rebuild their bond.
Unanswered Questions…
- Will Anamika ever be able to trust Mohit the same way again?
- Will Mohit truly stay committed?
- Will their marriage ever regain its past warmth?
These questions remain open-ended. But one truth stands: Anamika made a choice. And she made peace with it.
Many might say she should have left, but therapy isn’t about dictating choices. It’s about empowering individuals to make their own, with clarity and strength. My role wasn’t to tell her what to do, but to ensure that whatever she chose, she did it from a place of power, not fear.
